I always tell my brides and grooms to make sure they get that dance on video. No matter how convinced you are that you’re still on the klutzy side, you’re going to want to see it. Here’s why: The first dance at weddings is the exception to a rule of mine.
Normally, I don’t recommend taping yourselves unless you are preparing for a performance or contest. You can tell how you’re doing by how you feel. If you feel stiff and awkward, you look stiff and awkward. If you feel relaxed and natural, that’s how you look. Everyone is stiff and awkward at the beginning and become increasingly relaxed and natural with time and practice. But that’s not what you see when you see yourselves on tape. You see everything you are doing wrong and feel terrible.
But all of that goes out the window on your wedding day if you’ve studied with me and heard the secret to a perfect first dance (see PDF). There is something magical about that particular day and the way you are feeling about each other in that moment. If you keep in mind that your dance is a metaphor for the way your feel about each other, be joyful, with a spirit of fun and laughter, your dance will reflect that, and it will be wonderful. Your guests will be impressed and they’ll applaud enthusiastically. You’ll want to see why.
If you can’t afford to hire a professional, ask more than one camera bug to do the honors. This is a big favor because if you’re filming it you really don’t get to watch it. So ask people you know would enjoy doing this for you. But if you can work it into your budget, I highly recommend hiring a professional videographer. A pro will record the dance without the audience getting in the way. He’ll mike the music so you’ll only hear the music and not whatever conversation is going on near your friend who is shooting it on his cell phone. Couples interviewed after their weddings overwhelmingly say the one thing they would do differently if they had it to do over again is hire a videographer. I therefore pass this on to you. Don’t lose the opportunity to watch this magical moment and have it done right.
by LaurieAnn Lepoff
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