I specialize in working with people for whom learning to dance is a huge challenge. We all have things we do easily and things that are particularly difficult. Especially when we are challenged by that which we see others do with ease, it’s tempting to focus on what we have yet to master and fail to credit ourselves with the successes.
I really encourage you to not only pay attention to every little nuance as it falls into place, but to celebrate it with reckless abandon. Yes, dancing is one of those things that has always come easily to me, but a lot of my students speak the language of computers as if they learned it in the womb. That would be my counterpart to their difficulty with dance.
I like to write, but I have to have a blogging coach to deal with the social media learning curve that is so necessary if you are a business owner today. I’ve been doing this for over a year and I STILL have homework every week because there is always something new to learn. What? ANOTHER social media site to interact with? Is there NO END? Apparently not. I may never be like my students who actually do this for fun, but I’ve learned a lot and I’m getting pretty good at it. Every time I learn something new, I jump up and down to music (well, I am a dancer) and tell myself (and sometimes the rest of my blogging class) what a computer wizard I am becoming and how much I know. The newer people actually ask me questions and I usually know the answer. Awesome!
There really isn’t any end to learning to dance either. You keep getting better and better the more you do it. You learn the nuances that make your dance feel like you just hit that sweet spot and everything just works. You add new moves to your repertoire and new dances if you want to. If you fall in love with dance, you never stop learning. And one of the main keys to finding that love is to celebrate your learning process every step of the way.
Sometimes, when I tick my tech homework off the to-do list on my desktop (yes!), I think to myself “That was fun!” Feeling like a hopeless imbecil is not fun, but learning a new skill is, if you focus on your accomplishments along the way. Jump up and down and say “Yes! I did that right and it felt good! Let’s see if I can do it again!’” Trust me. It will be a lot more fun and you’ll learn a lot faster. And meanwhile, remind yourself of the skills that come effortlessly to you that might be another person’s biggest challenge in life.
by LaurieAnn Lepoff
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