What’s the most romantic thing you can do on this day of romance? Well, yeah, go dancing of course! And if you don’t know how to dance?
Well, if you’re a guy who’s with a woman who loves to dance, then take her out for a romantic dinner and give her a gift certificate for dance lessons. No, not for her. For you. Just taking lessons together can be very romantic, but the real gift is your willingness to learn a skill that you can do together for the rest of your lives.
There’s not much that’s more romantic than dancing together, unless it’s taking a risk to leave your comfort zone to give her the gift of yourself. Of yourself recognizing what she gave up to be with you, and wanting to give it back to her.
That’s the romantic part. The transformative part is what it will do for you to find out you can do something that you thought was off limits. Love gave you the willingness to try. Taking on the challenge will give you so much more.
I may have told this story in a previous blog, but it’s a good one so in case you missed it, here it is again! Years ago I took a class in dance lifts with a favorite partner who happened to be a rather soft and sweet natured gay man. Afterwards I said to him, “It’s obvious why this is fun for us. We get to feel like a little girl being tossed into the air by our daddy. But what’s in it for you to be the lifter?”
“Oh,” said Jody. “We get to live out our fantasy of being the big macho hero!”
That was the moment of an epiphany for me. If Jody had a fantasy of being a big macho hero, then every man on the planet must have that fantasy.
So that’s what’s in it for you. Learn to dance and be a big macho hero for the love of your life. When you give this gift, it changes you into someone who loves being a dancer. Don’t you want to find out who that person will be?
by LaurieAnn Lepoff
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