You tube has changed the face of first dances for weddings. People post their dances for the world to see and it gives others ideas for their own dance. This can be a good thing, but not always.
The latest rage in wedding dances is to start with a traditional dance like waltz or foxtrot and then surprise everyone by suddenly changing into a fast paced choreographed wild and crazy routine. Here’s a great example of a mother son version:
Pretty fun, right? Should you do it for your own wedding? Well that depends. If it really expresses your personality, as it obviously does in this case, then by all means go for it.
But look also at your motivation for doing this. Is it because you think of it as the latest thing and you want to do the “in” thing? If this is the case, I urge you to think twice. First of all, if you’re looking for that big surprise, you may be disappointed. You’re not the only ones who watch YouTube videos. If you go out of your way to make your “traditional” dance at the beginning as boring as possible, everyone will be relieved that you are finally doing something interesting, but you could have achieved the same thing by making your waltz creative and beautiful.
Here’s my suggestion that I recommend for all of my students. There is nothing traditional about a first dance, really. It’s a modern concept, so you can do anything you want. The most important thing is that it reflects who you are and how you feel about each other. Maybe a wild and crazy nontraditional dance is who you are. Maybe a lovely waltz is the best reflection of who you want to be on that day. Maybe your song choice is particularly meaningful and the dance is whatever goes with your song.
Copying someone else’s idea is rarely a good idea. You Tube is great for getting ideas, but watch out for the trap of doing the popular trend of the day. If your dance speaks to your hearts and reflects your feelings for one another, you can’t go wrong!
by LaurieAnn Lepoff
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